What is a Good Life? #34
Exploring New Ways Of Relating with Pablo Escorcia
On the 34th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I'm delighted to be joined by Pablo Escorcia. Pablo is a Berlin based entrepreneur, Biodanza teacher, Yogi, consultant, and Co-Founder of Purpose+Motion - a group serving others to live out their purpose and provoking change filled with meaning.
In this episode, Pablo shares with us elements of his journey of searching for his own path through integrating the practical world of business, ancient wisdom, and the integral world of yoga and dance.
We discuss Pablo’s current explorations of open loving relationships and what he has learned from past relationships too, the significance of owning and communicating our humanity, the fundamental importance of trust in personal and business relationships, and the role that Biodanza plays in both remembering what it is to be human and exploring new ways of relating to one another.
If you are struggling to understand and express your needs in relationships, if you want to enhance the level of trust and number of courageous conversations in your life, or you’re seeking new modalities to help you reimagine a different future, this episode will give you plenty to contemplate.
The weekly clip from the podcast (3 mins), my weekly reflection (2 mins), the full podcast (59 mins), and the weekly questions all follow below.
1. Weekly Clip from the Podcast
2. My weekly reflection
Pablo touches on an interesting paradox in this interview, that despite the fact that we may feel loved and content with our partners, we may still fear being ourselves or that we still hide elements of ourselves for fear of our partners no longer loving us.
Are there parts of your past, even before the relationship began, that you wouldn’t dare share with your partner? I am not talking about chronologically listing out everything you have ever done, mainly bigger moments that you carry shame or regret for that still frequently appear in your own mind?
I am not suggesting that we all run to our partners and clumsily blurt out everything on our conscience, but the more I have conversations with people about their relationships there seems to be an increasing number of things that people justify not sharing with their partners.
While Pablo discusses loving relationships from the perspective of creating an open relationship, there’s much that he discusses that is applicable to all formats of relationship - the significance of transparency, honesty, open communication, and sharing in, acknowledging, and accepting each other’s humanity.
I believe the way we relate to our partners needs a big overall in terms of honesty and transparency. I observe many people simply tell their partners what they want to hear not what they actually think and feel.
What I share with my wife would probably be considered a little radical by some, but the more openly I share my humanity, the more I receive of hers.
I often have shame over the things that I share, I assume I am no more virtuous than the next person, however, that continued sharing, which would seem completely counter-intuitive to how most people communicate with their partners, is actually what builds trust and a foundation that can be relied upon.
The more we construct our walls of bullshit between us, the more separation we create. The more courage we have to share our experiences of life with each other, the closer we come together.
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3. Full Episode - Exploring New Ways Of Relating with Pablo Escorcia - What is a Good Life? #34
4. This week’s Questions
Think of the most important relationship in your life, what don’t they know about you? What are you hiding from them? Is there something small that you could start to share with them?
What needs do you have that you are presently not communicating in an important relationship in your life?
I am a Coach based in Berlin, via Dublin, Ireland. I left behind a 15-year career in Capital Markets after I became extremely curious around answering some of the bigger questions in life. I started this project in 2021, for which I’ve now interviewed over 150 people, to provide people with the space to reflect on their own lives and to create content that would spark people’s own inquiry into this question. I am also trying to share more genuine expressions of the human experience, beyond the facades we typically project.